Mom, Are You Happy?
by: Nicole Dean
I’m a new Stay at Home Mom and I’m just miserable. I love my baby,
but I miss my career and my co-workers. Going back to work isn’t
an option. But, how can I be happy? What can I do?
Signed Miserable in MO
Making the transition from a busy career woman to a stay at home
mom can be quite a struggle, especially if you really enjoyed your
job and your co-workers. I’ve been there!
Don’t get me wrong. Being a Stay at home mom is a great job. I’ve
been an at home mom for several years and I wouldn’t trade being
home with my kids for anything. But, it was hard to adjust to the
transition from conversing with adults to talking to a drooling
diapered dude all day.
So, how can you go from struggling stay at home mom to a happy
Take time for you. Get rid of the guilt. You do not need to play
with your baby 10 hours per day, just because you’re home. You can
take time to rub some lotion on your feet or read a book. You’re
setting a positive example for your little one that Mommy matters,
too. And, every time you pick up a magazine or book, you’re also
reinforcing the concept that reading is good. (Well, even if that
one is an excuse, it’s worked for many years for me.) So, grab a
book and relax. As long as you’re keeping baby close by and safe,
you’re doing just fine.
Spend time on your marriage. You may not always like your partner,
but you do love him. Whether you go on a date night or just sit
together on the couch at night, show him that he’s special to you.
Don’t let the ‘messy house syndrome’ win its battle. Try to do
at least one load of laundry daily and put it away. Load the dishwasher
before you go to bed so you can wake up to a clean-ish kitchen every
morning. You’ll feel better about your day if you do.
Stay healthy. If your health suffers, you can’t take care of your
baby. Eat well, drink lots of water, take naps every chance you
get, and try to get some fresh air and exercise every day. It’s
good for you and your baby. And, as convenient as that drive-through
fast food is, keep it to a minimum. That sodium and grease does
not help your mental or physical health.
Plan lunch dates or grown-up time. Bring your baby to lunch to
meet your co-workers. Or, if baby doesn’t handle restaurants very
well, then have your friends over during a weekend for a barbeque
or card game. You can still have a life.
And, of course, if you just can’t break past the blues, or if you
feel unsafe around your baby, then get some help. I promise you
that you won’t be the first mother to walk into a doctor’s office
and break down into tears. It’s hard work being a Mom. And, it’s
a heck of an adjustment.
Take care of you. Your baby needs a healthy, happy Mommy. Your
baby deserves that and so do you.
About The Author
Nicole Dean is the Mom behind http://www.showmomthemoney.com/StayAtHomeMom.asp
a free and fun resource helping moms in all areas of life.
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